Are you bleeding?

I hear things, read things, and sometimes make up saying or quotes in my head. If the saying means something to me, I will write ti down and try to give credit to the writer (if I remember) who said/wrote it.

If you never heal from what hurt you. You bleed on those who didn’t cut you. This is the subject of today’s post.

We all hurt, we all feel pain, we all suffer. Some deal with hurt better than others, while some struggle daily and even need therapy to help them navigate their world. Regardless, we all hurt.

Those who struggle to deal with the hurt sometimes bottle it up, or lash out at others. This is where the last part of the above statement affects. The victim is simply that, a victim. They might feel attacked, confused, angry, hurt, or even betrayed. Often, the bleeding that is projected on someone else is not even understood by that person. They are just feeling the brunt of the anger, pain, or rage that the person has held inside.

We all need help from time to time. Whether it is speaking to a friend, or more seriously speaking to a licensed counselor. The healing must take place for each of us. The hurt first must be identified, then healing must begin. It can take days, weeks, months or even years. Without healing, anger, pain, rage or sadness just grows and festers.

The next time you snap at someone, whoever it is, look at the source of that frustration and reaction toward the other person. Is it truly something they said or did to YOU or is it a manifestation of something inside you?

Our society these days is so tightly wound that the smallest things can set someone off. We ALL need to learn to communicate with each other. To talk things out, to LISTEN and not to judge each other, is imperative. Most often people want to just talk. Not wait for a reaction or solution, but just get things off their chest.

Learn to listen to others without an immediate solution in mind. Learn to not judge. Learn to empathize with others. Learn to look inside yourself and heal what is bothering you. Make peace with yourself and then you can make peace with others.

If you never heal from what hurt you. You bleed on those who didn’t cut you.

Until next time,

Tim (Kilmer)