Ruminator

I’d rather tell you the truth and you think I am a jerk, then tell you a lie so you will like me. I don’t want anyone close to me to tell me what they think I want to hear unless it’s the truth. We play this game with friends, coworkers, neighbors, and family members because we want them to all like us. This is selfish, not selfless. That is the lie! People say or think I don’t want to hurt their feelings. Nope. Those people have no courage. They don’t want others to not like them. It’s not about them, it’s about you. You don’t want others not to like you. It hurts but lies are not genuine and they build weak foundations of relationships. Priorities should be set and evaluated by everyone. For me liking used to be huge to me, but now it is not even in my top 3. I craved approval over everything else, even at the expense of my happiness. If you do like me, great, but that is not my primary goal any longer. Truth, love, freedom, then community (liking) are my priorities. If we all told t...

I hear things, read things, and sometimes make up saying or quotes in my head. If the saying means something to me, I will write ti down and try to give credit to the writer (if I remember) who said/wrote it. If you never heal from what hurt you. You bleed on those who didn’t cut you. This is the subject of today’s post. We all hurt, we all feel pain, we all suffer. Some deal with hurt better than others, while some struggle daily and even need therapy to help them navigate their world. Regardless, we all hurt. Those who struggle to deal with the hurt sometimes bottle it up, or lash out at others. This is where the last part of the above statement affects. The victim is simply that, a victim. They might feel attacked, confused, angry, hurt, or even betrayed. Often, the bleeding that is projected on someone else is not even understood by that person. They are just feeling the brunt of the anger, pain, or rage that the person has held inside. We all need help from time to time. Whether ...